Lost Boy Syndrome.

In Uncategorized on October 4, 2011 at 8:13 pm

We’ve all heard of the Peter Pan Complex.

You know…the fear of growing up and settling down. The cause of every fire-red mustang purchased by men over the age of 50. The reason why guys consistently turn down great women because they’re terrified of commitment.

Here’s the new Neverland affiliated disease that I’m going to pitch: Lost Boy Syndrome.

Every ‘lost boy’ is still trying to figure out their path in life…and that’s fine by me…because my path tends to go ten different directions, so I can relate to this. The lost boy still wants to have fun. The lost boy still wants multiple lost girls in his life. The lost boy wants to lose his marbles and fly free at the local bar…not having to answer to anyone.

Here’s the thing…it is important to understand that lost boys aren’t lost. They’re well aware of their actions, and they may even be aware of the consequences of their actions. A lost boy is aware of the consequences, but would never look at it as an actual consequence. A lost boy wants to channel their freedom while they still can. Hell, they managed to escape the pram when they were a baby to fight for their freedom, so why the heck would they let a girl take that away from them?

Here’s the catch. The one thing that a lost boy will overlook.

They all need a ‘Wendy’ in their life.

Don’t confuse a ‘wendy’ with a wife. A ‘wendy’ is a non-permanent fixture in a lost boy’s life. She is simply there to entertain him. To make him feel loved. To share in his adventures. To tuck him in at night. A ‘Wendy’ can be replaced. A ‘wendy’ is not promised a future. It is also important to understand that a ‘wendy’ is very much aware of her status. She is ok with it. She is ok with it, because deep down, every ‘wendy’ type is also a lost boy at heart. Every Wendy sits by her window at night dreaming of adventure. Yes, at times she dreams of something a little more permanent like marriage and children, but a ‘wendy’ still wants to be swept out her window in the middle of the night. She still wants to dress like a pirate. She still wants to tell stories. She still isn’t quite ready to grow up. Not just yet. There will come a time when a ‘wendy’ has gone through enough lost boys in her life and she realizes that she needs a new adventure. Her new adventure will be to grow up…but not in the way you might think. She’ll still dress up as a pirate. She’ll still be a dreamer. She’ll still believe in Neverland. The only difference is, she will no longer be a little lost boy at heart. She will have a newfound faith in her new dreams, and she won’t be afraid to pursue them. She will fly back to the nursery, pack her bags and move on.

I know all of this, because I’m a Wendy…who is also a little lost boy at heart. Cherish every adventure. Make every mistake. Live your life to the fullest.


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